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25-Mar-2016 11:05

He would text me things like, ‘I miss you’ and ‘Can’t wait to see you’ and on our second date he said he ‘never liked a girl so much after only two dates’. All this was great, but then he started to shift and lately has been acting really shady- he cancels on me last minute, he’s been acting distant, and I’m just getting weird vibes. We hit it off right away and during the first few weeks, he seemed super into me.What I am saying is that in the beginning phase of the relationship, it’s common for one or both people to have some amount of insecurity and want to go out of their way to make sure the other person really likes them before they let their guard down.So one of the ways they might see if you like them is to do and say anything they can think of that they think you would like. You would want the other person you’re with to feel secure with you, so that they can let their guard down and be their true day-to-day self (without all the added performances to make you like them).He already knows you’re not going to go out with other guys.He already knows you have decided to be exclusive to him.MORE: Signs He Doesn’t Want to Be With You He might give you some excuse as to why he can’t get into a relationship, but the excuse isn’t the part that matters.As I’ve said time and time again: When a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you (for any reason), believe him! It makes me sad to see, but there are a lot of relationships I see where the guy is insecure and wants to make sure the woman likes him.

Or if he feels that the current dynamic is feeling too much like a “relationship” to him (whatever he defines that as), he’s going to pull back. and no amount of asking, begging, hinting, pressuring or convincing is going to change that!

He does all sorts of things to woo her and win her over, but simultaneously, he (for whatever reason) does not want to be in an exclusive relationship.